Videos BDS&M Episode #7: Real Life Update and Listener Feedback #1

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In keeping with the new, more focused format, we will periodically have episodes dedicated to miscellaneous stuff going on in our lives. It will also be a chance to tackle listener feedback. In this episode, we get the lastest updates on Cybele, the comedian, and go over some listener submitted feedback about the new Podcast.

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Videos How to Break Your Man, Post Interview

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Videos Mistress Roulette Strap-On Video Conclusion

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The concluding video for the “First Tease of the Week” we published so long ago.

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BDSM Bullshit Myths, Female Supremacist Bullshit, Getting Real, Podcasts BDS&M Episode #6: Disregarding Cybele

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Auby and Preston now face the wrath of the Cybelians! Fetlife user Cybele_ has now presented a list of demands less she unleash her barbarian horde of male human toilets to do untold damage and destruction. Will our intrepid heroes escape this fate? Will they cave to Cybele’s demands? It’s hostage negotiation time with the woman who loves people to eat her poop.

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Podcasts BDS&M Episode #5: Mutual Welfare and Benefit…in Bed

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Auby and Preston continue their discussion of applying Jigoro Kano’s philosophy of mutual welfare and benefit to BDSM ethics. They also discuss that the kinds of kink they are proposing to engage is right on the edge of this new paradigm.

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Femdom Reflections, Getting Real, Male Submission Reflections, Podcasts, Sexual Psychology BDS&Marriage Episode #4: What to Expect When Your Wife Loves Another Man

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In this episode, Auby is upset because of how Preston characterized her relationship with the comedian way back in Episode 1. She expressed her displeasure with his tendency to mock her desires to have passionate sex with another man. They then have a frank and very heart-felt discussion about how they really feel.

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BDSM Bullshit Myths, Female Supremacist Bullshit, Getting Real, Podcasts BDS&Marriage Episode #3: SSC v Mutual Benefit v “Real Femdom”

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Auby, Preston, and Allen get together to discuss the rumblings on Fetlife. Specifically, the strange way in which the kinky community carries itself, the bizarre attitudes people seem to pass off as common place, and how incensed they become when challenged. Preston introduces Jigoro Kano’s philosophy of “mututal welfare and benefit” and applies it to kink. The three then compare this philosophy to Fetlife user Cybele_, a proponent of “real femdom.”

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Podcasts BDS&Marriage Episode #2: Allen’s Astrological Reading

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Allen, a Podcast fan from back in the Diary of a Dominatrix days, is the focus of our second Podcast of the new series. Auby is becoming an Astrological Counselor, and Allen is her first subject. Her work is cut out for her because Allen is a hardcore skeptic, but she does quite well in giving counsel to Allen regarding his marriage.

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Femdom Reflections, Podcasts, Sexual Psychology BDS&Marriage Episode#1: Introductory Cuckolding 101

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Allen, (Fetlife user akm3) long-time ‘DoaD’ podcast listener, joins us to kick off the rebranded ‘BDS&Marriage’.

Among the highlights, the former Mistress Roulette (actually Aubianne) struggles with a complicated predicament: having feelings for a man that’s been in her life for several years – and isn’t her husband, Mr P / Preston.

She also recalls her first experiences with what can be argued as polyamoury, but seems more akin to accidental cuckoldry; specifically, her college relationships.

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BDSM Bullshit Myths, Female Supremacist Bullshit, Getting Real, Male Submission Reflections Beyond Safe, Sane and Consensual

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Ethics can be a sticky business. You have to come up with a code by which people can make decisions that will provide some benefit to someone. Ask a panel of ethicists whether I should engage in random acts of wholesale slaughter against innocents, and you will (hopefully) get a chorus of resounding “Nos!” In the field of ethics, taking actions to harm others is typically frowned upon.

Things start to get sticky, though, if you’ve made prior arrangements by which you inflict harm on someone else who has agreed to be hurt. You start to enter the realm of, “Well, whatever makes you happy.” But even that runs into problems. If someone consents to have you kill them because they know how much you love killing people, is it ethical to go ahead and kill them?

I think not. The BDSM community came up with certain guidelines regarding what kind of play was good to engage in, and they seem to have settled on “safe, sane and consentual.” Engaging in murder against a consenting adult is not safe by definitions once they end up dead. Also, the adult who consented probably wasn’t sane to begin with.

It’s a decent guideline, but I don’t think it goes far enough. Sure, murder isn’t safe, but what about cutting off random body parts? A more common example, unfortunately, would be the whole total power exchange thing. If I have total power of you, and I decide that you should systematically lose all contact with the outside world, all friends and loved ones, and become so immersed into our little BDSM world that you simply can’t function in society any more, is that ethical? The answer is fairly obvious, “Hell no!”

Whether this kind of consentual abuse passes the muster of safe, sane and consentual is really sticky though. How can the average fat, white trash couple in Boise, Idaho develop a good handle on what is sane to begin with? It’s just too ill defined a definition to be particularly useful.

Of course, the white trash couple is Boise is going to engage in whatever kinds of crazy shit they want to regardless of what I think about it. So it’s not like a more rigorous ethical definition really serves much purpose here, but what about whe they go on the pages of Fetlife and hold their obviously abusive relationship as a model for others to follow? Now the rest of the yokels are presented

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